You're head over heels for your new boyfriend who seems perfect in every way except for one thing: You can't seem to shake the hunch that he isn't totally over his ex. Sometimes you wonder if it's all in your head and is simply a matter of your own jealousies and insecurities coming into play. And yet there are times in which you suspect there may be a method to your madness. Rather than push these doubts to the farthest corner of your mind, it may be a good idea to pay closer attention to your guy's actions to determine whether or not your suspicions have any foundation- and decide whether you should continue on in the relationship or run for the hills. How can you tell if your boyfriend is still pining for his ex?
Here's how:
1. He wasted no time in jumping into another relationship- with you. Rebound much? Everybody needs time to heal after a long, intense relationship, and immediately starting a new one with someone else may just be a sign that he's doing all that he can to forget his ex before he's actually moved on.
2. He constantly brings her up in conversation. Even if it is just to rag on her or talk about how awful their relationship was, it shows that she is still fresh in his mind. If he were truly over her, he wouldn't feel the need to talk about her at all, good or bad.
3. He compares her to you. Once again, even if you come out on top of these comparisons, they are simply not fair and show that he is still constantly thinking about her and perhaps trying to convince himself that you are just sooo much better than her-which we know you are! ;)
4. He continues to hang out with her. He may pull out the "we're just really good friends after just having broken up a month ago" card, and of course, you don't want to be that girlfriend who looks insecure by constantly complaining about it and creating all sorts of rules and restrictions for your man, but if you don't say how you truly feel and allow him to continue to do what he wants, you will be doing yourself a major disservice. Let him know you don't think it's appropriate for him to be constantly hanging out with her when he's got you. If he gets defensive about it, then he's definitely not over her.
5. He constantly calls her. While it may not be as bad as hanging out with her, one typically leads to the other. Once again, this is time he should be spending chatting on the phone with you. Find out what the deal is before they start having "strictly platonic" sleepovers.
6. He accidentally calls you by her name. We can let it slide once, especially if his relationship with you is still fresh. However, if it happens frequently, and he doesn't apologize profusely, don't let him off the hook so easily, as it's not exactly the best way to kick off a new relationship.
7. He brings you to places that remind him of her. If you thought that bench in the park with the AK + BV FOREVER engraved on it was your guys' new special spot, think again. Ask him why he keeps taking you back to the same places. If he keeps on frequenting places where he used to take his ex, he is either extremely unoriginal, or he may be reliving fond memories- that don't involve you.
8. He's annoyed she's dating someone new. He finds out his ex is with someone new and expresses immense discontent and disgust about it, disregarding the fact that hello, he's in a relationship, too-and with you! If he has truly moved on, the feller should care less about what she's up to- especially when he's got you to drool over!
9. He keeps pictures of her. While we understand that a guy isn't going to automatically incinerate all pictures of his ex acquired during the course of their three year relationship the minute they break up, it is not only inconsiderate but also a tell-tale sign of his ongoing infatuation with her to keep photos of her lying around when he has begun a new relationship with you. It is permissible to keep old photos and keepsakes in a box that is stored far far away; however, if naked pictures of her pop up on his phone, RUN!
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