How to tell if a guy is cheating

When you get suspicious that your significant other is cheating, be careful not to appear paranoid. You have to walk a fine line, as you don't want to make false accusations. It can be hard to be sure if someone's cheating, but bottom line, you must protect yourself. Pay attention to the signs as well as the state of your own mental and emotional well-being within the relationship. Some fairly obvious red flags may signal that your significant other has a little something on the side.                
                  
                   
                       Here's how you can tell:



1. Less sex/affection. Unless he's Superman, he can only have so much sex. So if he's getting it from another source, you might notice. Whether it's another woman or a porn addiction — even if he's not cheating — a decrease in sex can signal serious issues in the relationship.

2. Jumpy about his cell phone. In a perfect world, we'd be open about sharing our correspondence with our significant others. Most of the time, we trust that we don't have to worry about who is texting or calling them. However, if you notice that he is getting protective and/or nervous when he gets calls or texts, he may have something to hide.

3. Gushing or talking about somebody suddenly. You know that exhilarating feeling you get when you meet someone new and exciting? You want to tell the world about them. You constantly find ways to bring them up in conversation. If he constantly does this about another woman- even if it's just to gush about his new secretary's amazing photo copying skills- be wary.

4. Disconnect.  Even though relationships ebb and flow naturally, if you're sensing that he's pulling away from you, then there may be someone else. Emotional disconnect should be investigated regardless of whether it's caused by cheating or not. There's a problem if he's not laughing or seeming as passionate as usual. It's hard to spread love/passion between two people, so the person who used to have it will feel it slipping away if it's being given to someone else.

5. He's pulling Houdinis. If he's disappearing, traveling, or unavailable to the point where you are starting to wonder, then he could be cheating. Also, these times tend to take on a pattern because it's tough to synch up schedules, especially in secret. 

6. His friends are acting strange. His friends will more often than not cover for him in most cases. They will not let you know what's going on, but they will definitely be racked with guilt, and their behavior may change slightly to display discomfort when they are around you while protecting his secret. 

7. Caught in lies about other things. If you catch him in a lie, your trust will naturally be damaged. Don't hold a grudge — forgiveness is a good thing. You can forgive, but don't forget. If he consistently breaches your trust, it's establishing a pattern of behavior that leads to cheating. Do yourself a favor: If he keeps lying, whether these lies are big or small, get out while you can and don't let him talk his way back in.

8. Been there, done that. Many people say, "Once a cheater, always a cheater."  If he's done it before, he's definitely capable of doing it again. It has nothing to do with you: Cheating is a self-serving act in which the cheater doesn't take his significant other into consideration. If a guy is upfront with you that he's made mistakes in the past, maybe give him a chance — but make it a long probationary period in which he must prove himself to you before you let your guard down.

9. Your gut tells you so. Don't blow off your sixth sense. People are gifted at sensing when something doesn't feel right. Whether there are red flags in your relationship that are clueing you in or not, if something feels off, don't ignore this feeling. Usually that feeling is right, and something intangible may have led to you figuring it all out.

How to tell you're dating a jerk

Just one of these signs should be reason enough to run for the hills, but here's an entire checklist of 20 clues to help you determine whether you're dating a narcissistic douche bag.


                        Here's how you can tell:


1. He can't take a joke.
2. He gives you verbal resume on the first date.
3. He begins 75 percent of sentences with "I."
4. He tells you about all the girls who hit on him. Even the ones who looked at him and thus OBVIOUSLY wanted to hit on him.
5. He gets annoyed if you text him while he's busy at work, but has no problem bugging you all day when things are "slow" for him.
6. He tell you about mundane details of his day as though he expects you to find them to be the most fascinating thing ever.
7. He complains about how uncomfortable HE is because it's too hot/cold/crowded, when clearly everyone involved in the situation is just as uncomfortable.
8. He's an advocate of unprotected sex because his penis is "too big" for condoms.
9. He zones out when you talk to him because he can't be bothered to focus on anything other than himself for more than 30 seconds at a time.
10. He fixates on how he's perceived by your friends & family, such as whether they like him, what they say about him, etc.
11. He obsesses over decisions related to his appearance, such as how many centimeters of his hair he should cut.
12. He couches every apology for wrongdoing in a subtle justification or excuse for his behavior, i.e. "I'm sorry I walked out on you at dinner last night, but you were just eating like such a pig."
13. Speaking of restaurants, he really doesn't think waiting for a table at a restaurant is something someone like HIM should have to do.
14. He refers to himself in the third person.
15. He updates his Facebook status multiple times a day.
16. He really wants to be famous. For something. He's just not sure what.
17. He's concerned about how your bold fashion statement will reflect on him when he's out in public with you.
18. He constantly fishes for compliments yet you can't seem to remember the last time he gave you one.
19. He's too busy to help you move but still wants you to come to his basketball game.
20. He tells you no one will ever love you like he does. HA! Let's hope not...

How to convert unhealthy snacks into healthy ones

It's a new year, and time for a new start. Unfortunately, that also entails doing away with our horrible munchies habits. While the chocolate and buttery goodness of candy bars and popcorn are so irresistible- especially while studying or recovering from a break up- they must become a thing of the past in 2010! The good news: Food technology has progressed in that there now exists a plethora of delicious, healthy snacks that taste (almost!) as good as the original, calorie-packed ones, which you can now freely enjoy minus the guilt. Swap your waist-expanding treats for waist-reducing ones. We promise that if you close your eyes you'll almost believe you're eating the real thing. ;)


                                   Here's how: 


1. Ice cream ------> Chocolate pudding
    Pudding has 10% of our necessary daily calcium intake & has way less sugar than ice cream.  Mix it with bananas for extra flavor.








2. Candy bars -------> Kashi TLC bars
     Chocolate + heart-healthy nuts=not bad for a granola bar!  They fill you up like no other, too!





3.  Popcorn --------> Mini rice cakes
     They have improved as they now come in a variety of flavors, including cinnamon apple! You can top them with a little low-fat peanut butter or jam for extra flavor.

4. Cheese ----------> Low-fat or non-fat string cheese

    The regular stuff has a ridiculous amount of calories! String cheese is delicious and fills you up without the guilt of all the calories packed into sliced cheese. See for yourself:

5. Chips ---------> Trail mix

     Look for ones with plenty of seeds and dried fruit like Woodstock Farms Organic Trail Mix. No picking out just the M&Ms allowed! ;)